Barry Winbolt's Blog Entries

  • Mood Control – It's Free and It Works!

    Our mood is the foundation of our wellbeing. We take it with us wherever we go, and we behave as though we have no control over it. But our mood is not all-powerful. It can be reined in and regulated. In short, it can be managed, and the best bit is, it's all free! Forget gadgets and gizmos. Leave ...
  • Confidence: Do You Know Your Strengths?

    How often have you met someone who is going to do something when they feel ‘confident' to do it? The world is full of non-authors, or non-artists and millions of other potentially creative souls who are telling themselves some version of “Someday, when the feeling moves me, I’ll&he...
  • Moods: If You can Feel It You can Change It

    When it comes to managing our moods we often think that we have little control over them. Moods are often the result of 'distorted thinking'' These are the false judgements and assumptions (E.g. "She did that deliberately so she must really hate me"; "He never picks up the 'phone so he is avoid...
  • Why I'm Fed Up, and How to Find Inspiration in the Daily Details

    I'm fed up! Lockdown can be tough, that's true. But do we need to make it worse by banging-on about how hard it is? In the middle of a crisis, predicting ever more doom and gloom is not what we need! People have many fine qualities. One of our finest is our ability in a crisis to rise to the challe...
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  • Let It Go or, Paralysis by Analysis

    For the most part, it isn't in our nature to like uncertainty. We tend to like things to be tidy and known. We are also, for the most part, good at problem-solving.  Yet we can easily become trapped in a mire of indecision about the smallest things. A tendency to over-think things can escalate...
  • Ideas to Help You Survive and Thrive in Lockdown

    Adjustment to any change is a challenge at the best of times. In the current situation where sudden change has been forced upon us by circumstances, the word 'challenge' seems totally inadequate.  In any other situation, there would be somewhere to turn for advice, guidance, and other resource...
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  • The Resilience Challenge Day 5: Ask for Help

    This is the final day, and task, in the 5-Day Resilience Challenge. If you've followed this far then you have already several of the tools used routinely by highly resilient people. Use these ideas regularly and you'll begin to radically shift your thinking to a more emotionally robust mindset. Inv...
  • The Resilience Challenge Day 4: A Learning Attitude

    Dwelling on problems holds you back and causes stress. Today's post in the 5-Day Resilience Challenge is about training yourself to see problems as opportunities. Highly resilient people do this routinely They don't welcome negative events, but they see them differently because they treat life as a...
  • The Resilience Challenge Day 3: Be Proactive

    In these daily posts, I'm outlining five of the key factors that contribute to personal resilience. Today, it's about increasing your sense of control by being proactive. Highly resilient people are proactive in the face of high demand rather than feeling angry or intimidated by it.  Taking c...
  • The Resilience Challenge Day 2:Stay Connected

    The more resilient you are, The the more you'll be able to recover from hardship and move forward in a positive, adaptive way. Your resilience also determines how well you deal with stress. In these daily posts, I'm outlining five of the key factors that contribute to personal resilience. Today, it...
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  • The Resilience Challenge Day 1: Acceptance, "It Is What It Is"

    Following my last blog, here is the first of my daily tasks to enable you to develop the habits of highly resilient people. When faced with an unexpected demand or problem situation you can resist it, or you can accept what’s happening. This exercise will help develop your 'acceptance' mindse...
  • The 5-Day Resilience Challenge: Boost Your Coping Skills

    If you are having a stressful time there is a lot you can do to help yourself. People who deal well with stress have certain characteristics which set them apart. These factors add up to what's known as resilience, and they can be learned and developed.  For highly resilient people, these ways...
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  • Why Making Things is Good for You

    Making things is good for your wellbeing. Doing something which brings tangible results makes you feel better. Most work these days doesn't do the same. Throughout my life, I've noticed that whenever I have been in crisis I have turned to making or doing something where I could see a tangible resul...
  • How to Use Your Social Connections to Boost Your Resilience

    Positive social relationships are linked to greater psychological and physical well-being. So social relationships matter when it comes to your level of resilience, in part because talking can help us feel less stress when we are under pressure. Feeling connected with others also combats loneli...
  • 5 Great Wins with Online Learning

    Online learning is fast becoming the norm if you want to pick up a new skill, improve career prospects or simply find a new hobby or interest. Millions of people have now benefitted from this way of study because it is so convenient, accessible, flexible, and low cost.  
  • Five Great Wins with Online Learning

    Online learning is fast becoming the norm if you want to pick up a new skill, improve career prospects or simply find a new hobby or interest. Millions of people have now benefitted from this way of study because it is so convenient, accessible, flexible, and low cost.   It's all made pos...
  • Are You Good at Being Bad?

    Do you often find fault with yourself? Are you one of those people who makes a habit of berating themselves for what they see as failings? If you are one of those people I won't try to persuade you that there might be a better way. I have learned what a waste of time that is. But I would like to s...
  • Losing Sleep? Lying Awake Can Make it Worse, So Here's a Plan..

    Sleep, or rather the lack of it, preoccupies a lot of people. If you’re one of them, maybe some statistics will help you feel less alone; 30% of people complain about poor quality sleep, (insomnia), 25% say that tiredness affects them during the day, and 61% crave good sleep more than they do ...
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  • If You Listen To Depression, It Wins

    Depression creates its own logic which hijacks your thinking; anything you think which requires a response will be answered by depression: You think: “I could go for a walk”Depression says: “Not today, You’re too tired” or You think: “I wish I didn’t feel...
  • Hold Your Desires Lightly to Get What You Want

    You are familiar with ambiguous images like the one above, which show two things at the same time; one aspect usually dominates (is it a rabbit, or a duck?). So much so that some people can't see the second interpretation, even when it is pointed out to them. The image that simultaneously depicts a ...
  • Communication Breakdown? Really?

    There is no such thing as a ‘communication breakdown’. We hear about it all time, but I think this is an unhelpful and limiting term which does more harm than good. Here’s why. First, communication cannot ‘break down’, in the way that washing machines and cars do. by ...
  • How to Have a Harmonious Life

    If you want a peaceful, harmonious life you have to work at it. By harmonious I mean, balanced, congenial, relaxed… a life where you are in tune with yourself, surrounded by people with whom you have reciprocal liking and respect, a life that is marked by tranquility and contentment and wher...
  • Mental Health Are we missing a Trick?

    There is a set of ideas which, over the years, have driven by therapy and coaching work, and my writing. One of them is that we should be reclaiming our mental wellbeing. I’ll do my best to be brief: We seem to have forgotten that for most of our history the human race has had to sort its pro...